Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like the only person who didn’t know anyone else in the room?
Maybe you have felt it when you started a new job or when you went to high school for the first time. Maybe you joined a new sporting team or maybe it was when you took up that new hobby of synchronised underwater juggling.
I had this situation this week as I was given the task of looking after a group of about 200 men and women I had never met before. At first it was bit stilted – they spent a couple of days sizing me up, trying to work out if I was someone they wanted to get to know but as time progressed the barriers were slowly let down and we began to make real progress.
The thing that made the difference was time and exposure. The more time I spent with them, the more conversations I had, the more we ate together, walked together, worked together and slept under the same roof the closer we become.
Real friendship and connection takes time and effort, there are some who do not want to be connected to anyone else but they are few and far between. Most of us crave connection and are glad when we find it…but often we forget that it only grows when we put some effort in.
A good friendship does not feel forced or contrived. A good friendship is comfortable and easy but it still requires you to do something.
I believe that to truly be a friend you can’t just sit back and wait for it to happen, you have to make a choice and make a move towards them.
The Lord challenges us about what is most important to us and what we think is most impressive about ourselves.
“Thus says the LORD: “Let not the wise glory in wisdom, let not the mighty glory in might, nor let the rich glory in riches; But glory in this, that you understand and know Me.” Jeremiah 9:23
The Lord is not impressed by how much you know, how strong you are or by what valuables you possess – He is only interested in how well you know Him and understand His ways.
For some it might feel like He is a stranger standing at the other side of the room…make an effort…make a move – He is worth getting to know!