I have been working with a small group of people for the last 6 weeks. We have been living in close quarters and have had long periods of busyness and a numbers of times where the pace has really slackened off. Each person on the team had a specific job to do and each one was a specialist in their particular field but we had to work together to achieve a common task and of course, because people were involved, there were moments where tensions were high and personalities got involved.
It is when you have to work and live together that you really get to know people. You can hide aspects of your personality or your personal likes or dislikes when you only see someone occasionally or when you work together sporadically. However, when you see each other every day and every night that is when things start to fray…
Over our time together I have seen what my colleagues are like when they are tired, stressed, relaxed, frustrated, happy and as they have dealt with disappointment. (…and they have witnessed me in the same situations…) I have seen them receive and give out both criticism and praise. I have seen a number of lasting friendships form and a couple fracture, never to be recovered.
We have learnt a lot about each other and in a situation like this it is very difficult to hide.
Most of the time we live our lives with a ‘costume’ on…we project an image of who we think we should be to the world and whoever is looking on. But people we really know, like our families and those who we allow or by default come close to us, have a better opportunity to know what is really going on in the inside.
In fact, some of us become adept at hiding the ‘real us’ from even our families and people who are close. We can work really hard to keep the hidden world hidden but I don’t think you can do it effectively forever.
The Bible speaks of the fact that we can’t hide our ‘real selves’ from God; it is futile to try and truly liberating when we finally give up putting all that energy into pretence.
Maybe it is time to recognise who you really are and what you are really like…
“Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties; and see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalms 139:23–24